Ok moms, here we go, more toilet training questions. My son is almost 4 ½ and although he got a late start, he has been urinating in the toilet for a while now. He even figured out peeing standing up by himself including using the cutout on boys underwear instead of taking them off. However he has not been having bm’s in the toilet. He did it once about a week ago, but only because I caught him mid-poop and we made it to the bathroom. He was very excited to poop and flush, so I thought.. whew, finally we are getting somewhere!
He has not done it since and now is also having urine accidents as well. He’s gone back to not telling me when he has to pee and even though we regularly sit on the toilet to try and poop, he never does. Then later I find him with dirty pants and he doesn’t seem to care. When I ask him what happened, why he didn’t get to the toilet and pee, he says "It was just an accident mom". When I ask him why he is still pooping in his pants he says, "I just wanted to". I can’t get any real answers and I don’t know why we are having a set back. Nothing has changed here at home. I got such terrific feedback from you all in response to my last toilet training post, I figured I’d ask again.
He seems to be somewhat more emotional lately, so I wonder if he’s going through a stage. At this point, he knows exactly what he needs to do and why. He can recite the entire path food (organ by organ) takes to get from his mouth, and how it becomes poop and ends up in the toilet. So I know it’s not a matter of understanding the mechanics. He does not fight me when we sit and try and he is not afraid of the toilet. I’m beginning to wonder if he’s just being lazy?
Should I just ignore this like I did with the urine? It worked then, I simply put the ball in his court and in no time he did it for himself. Your collective insights will be much appreciated by me and any other moms toilet training an older child.